Takeaway’s From My Lifespan

I’ve wanted to do some writing about the takeaways of my experiences of working with people across my lifespan. I won’t discuss their problems or stories, but I do feel very drawn to reflecting on the takeaway’s from those exchanges. So many stories, so many children, so many parents…where do I start?

The first thing that comes to mind when I reflect about this topic is – the ‘golden thread’ that I’ve seen weaved throughout everyone’s stories of ‘pain and suffering’. Why are so many people angry? Why are so many people sad and overwhelmed? How come it’s so hard to make ends meet and really just live a prosperous and happy life? Gosh – these are the questions that seem to ache in so many people that I’ve met. More questions of what is not happening as opposed to what is happening…

So may stories have become tangled in my mind, but the one thing that is clear when I think about this is the ‘common story‘ that everyone has shared with me. The common story, you say? Everyone has had a different life…everyone has had different traumas and experiences!!! Why would I say everyone has a ‘common story’?

AH! But, again – I know it may sound odd, but I can’t deny the commonality of everyone’s core message; it’s just been there all the time. I’m a social researcher – I dig for qualitative epiphanies; I look for common themes; I look at trends; and I listen. I study the world around me and have the opportunity to work with students across all genres of life that are passionate about social research, as well. I engage with the world around me by looking from many perspectives with the consistent aim of being objective, reliable, and valid. That’s a hard task. But I try and have worked hard at embracing new belief systems around ethical practices, cultures, and worldviews. I am proud of my academic work and professional accomplishments. I know I have to do good and share my knowledge with others…

Ok, here goes…

I think people really struggle with the core belief of…

“I am not good enough”.

I get excited and disorganized when I write about this topic and I have never really found a great way to discuss it – it’s deep and in some ways quite subjective. As a social science researcher, I aim to be as objective as I can, always aiming for strong psychometrics and verifiable sources of data. Having said that, I can’t say I have any formal findings to report, but I can say that what I’ve observed over the years wasn’t a delusion, either. But, I think this whole belief of “I am not good enough” is something seriously worth addressing as a nation. It’s there…and we need to talk about it.

I could write a book about this topic – and really worry that this damaging core belief is being missed in our attention and mindset with serving the world around us. What do you think? Why do you think people believe this lie so much? Who told them they were no good and why would anyone believe that about themself? What can we do with our language, reactions, and choices that counteract this terrible, core belief?

It’s just something that I keep thinking about and am a bit stuck on this reflection as I continue to build my voice through “Pull The Roots Out”…

Tell me what you think?



Check out this gratitude journal! I really enjoy using this every morning and evening to start and end my day. Just a few minutes a day paying focus to what you are grateful for can be a life changing personal development practice.

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